Wednesday, September 19, 2018

Is Your Spirit As Strong As Samuel's?


Our Place in the Universe – By: Samuel Woldesmaite

It is always rewarding for me to come across examples of insights into our Black Belt Credo that demonstrate a student’s understanding of the lessons I attempt to impart in our martial arts training.  In his 2nd Degree Black Belt Essay, Samuel took firm hold of the meaning of his selected line, 
‘I Exist Both in and out of Myself.’  
           
“This [line] reminds us that we not only hold influence over own lives but over the lives of everyone we interact with…and spiritually existing through the influences we have on others. My [role] as an instructor means that every interaction I have with my students can negatively or positively influence them.”



This excerpt clearly denotes Samuel’s perspective on existing outside of himself in terms of his influences on others.  The primary goal of being able to ‘step outside’ of one’s self being to grant perspectives not diminished by selfish motivation is further elucidated as follows:

“What’s more is that no interaction we have can be [truly neutral]. Brennan Manning put it best when he said: ‘In every encounter we either give life or we drain it; there is no neutral exchange.’ Our actions create shockwaves in the environment, our smile and cheery disposition can seep into those around us. If we choose to be selfish and only care about ourselves, then that selfish, negative attitude will infect like a disease.”


In closing, the essay brought to light Samuel’s perspective on fostering positivity within himself first.  Self-control and appreciation for the influences of our emotions on our actions is paramount in achieving the strength of character necessary to succeed in life.  Black Belts at KMA are expected to acknowledge feelings, embrace that we are emotional beings and understand to the best of our ability how they influence decision making.


            We must repair the world through self-control and kindness to others. This way we can spread this spirit of goodness in a shockwave throughout the whole world. This is impossible to achieve by a negative attitude. We are remembered for the legacy we leave, so leave a positive one. And when you find yourself lashing out at others, then remember line number nine and push the negative away and embrace the positive.”

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Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Choose your Words Carefully





It's the Way You Say It

When we communicate, only about 10% of our message is actually brought accurately to the recipient through our words.  Some of it is “lost in translation” on the receiving end, but the real factor in bringing our point across is our non-verbal's, the things we do and how we say the words we choose. 

Think of the difference in how your child may apologize when you require it of them versus when they mean it.  The words are the same, but it's night and day in meaning and significance!

In the same way, your child will pick up in the ways in which you speak and how you say things about their training and martial arts in general.  There are, however, some pitfalls in word choice and phrasing that I hope to expose and even to provide some pellucid and practiced plans for safe and effective replacement. 




The Power of Words

The words we use have power and influence the mental image our children create for themselves.  Paint a positive and exciting picture for your child, and they will become more likely to desire to be a source of inspiration to your own learning by their training and growth in martial arts.


Power list of suggested word and phrase changes:

1.  Use the “Yet”
Adding this word to the end of your statements shows that you are keeping an open attitude towards learning...

I don’t know, yet. 
We can't do that, yet. 
You just have learned to catch your balance, yet
I realize you just haven't memorized this all, yet

2. And the “Get”
Replacing the words "have to" and "need to" with get shows things as opportunity vs an obligation...

Obligation:  You have to go to karate tonight
Opportunity:  You get to spend an hour in karate tonight

Obligation:  You will need to stay 30 longer at open gym today since I have to go to the store.
Opportunity:  You get to have an extra 30 minutes of practice time in open gym today while I am at the store.

Obligation:  You have to practice your terminology on the way to your test.
Opportunity:  You get to practice your terminology with me in the care on the way to your test tonight.


3. Place your "Bet!"
Always bet on your child’s success!  Keep a positive attitude and tone regarding their training and practice habits. 

“My kid is going to nail their next test, board break, tournament, training session. “  


Making changes to our speech patterns can be a real challenge.  It's okay to slip up periodically as you make adjustments.  Simply pause, acknowledge your misused phrasing, and rephrase things in a positive light.  

This will accomplish not only a retraining of your thought-life, but also demonstrates to your listening child that your heart and mind are in full support of them and their activities.  Acknowledging the slip can actually make the subsequent correction an even stronger reinforcement than if you get it right the first time


Thursday, June 28, 2018

Lifestyle Social Solutions - 10 Ways to Make a Difference


The LifeStyle

Training and dedicating your life to martial arts can have long lasting positive influences.  I’ve seen it happen.  But, it is always a balance of the student finding the right teacher at the right time.  A good teacher will have skill sets and an approach that enables him or her to meet the needs of diverse students, but it is not always going to be an optimal fit.  Timing, and all the factors associated with it, can also be factors.

Once you have come to a stable place and found the right facility and instructor, there are several things you as parents can do to help solidify martial arts as a part of your child’s lifestyle.  

You’ve been taking incremental steps in committing to the lifestyle, starting with when you first accepted the notion that martial arts is a reasonable solution to whatever it is that has brought you to the search for a school.  Now, its time to transition to a role of support that will leave little room for error or misinterpretation.  As the leaders of your respective families, your child will follow the example you set, and the stronger your message of support and encouragement comes across, they more they will want to model the behaviors to which you've assigned positive value.

The Social Connection

All humans are social animals, and our kids are no exception.  Even shy and withdrawn children need to have social interactions.  We all feed off of them.  In the martial arts school, the master or head instructor dictates the culture, which ideally is one of respect and acceptance that encourages everyone, especially the withdrawn, to comfortably share and interact.  In the home, it is the parents who lead and set the tone.  The statements you make and actions you take relay messages to your child all the time.  Positively engaging and seeking out means of being involved with martial arts alongside your child sends a message of support that will only lift up your child and edify your position of authority in the home. 

When your child starts martial arts, so do you.  You do not have to attend class with them, going rep for rep, to be involved and engaged.   However, it can mean more than just asking questions about class on the car ride home.  While this certainly serves as low level engagement, it is not the pinion that will secure your child’s interest and long term participation in martial arts.   The rule in martial arts is simple...the longer an you train, the more you grow.  There is no end to the path of martial arts.  Certainly, there are peaks, valleys, and plateaus along the course, but the trek is always forward into new horizons and levels of achievement.  

Imagine the likelihood of your child becoming a black belt, a Master, or even a Grand Master, and...

How awesome would that be? 

They need to have a strong foundational support network, including engaged support, from their top level influencers, their parents.  

10 Support Solutions

I’m not here to just dance around concepts though.  Sure, supportive engagement is the center of the thought cloud, but as parents, where you take the idea will reflect your family's specific nature.  To get things started and spark some ideas of your own, immediately or after you’ve tried some of the following, this list includes ten different means of showing support that may match an interest or active dynamic in your household.


1. Travel: Make a Trial lesson at a studio part of any travel plans to a new city

  • You can usually get these for free and they show the breadth of what is available in the arts and how they are taught.

2. Movie or Game Fans: Schedule a Martial Arts movie or Gaming Night

  • There is no shortage of content in either one of these categories!

3. Cooking: Prepare a meal from the country of origin for your child's art

  • There are picky eaters in every culture...you can find a recipe (or mod one) to fit the bill

4. Bibliophiles: Read a book together

  • Again, there are works of fiction and non-fiction aplenty on the arts

5. Handy: Build a piece of training equipment or accessory

  • Consult a few martial arts supplier sites or catalog and match their offering with your skill sets!

6. Crafty: Tailor their uniform

  • The way in which uniforms are sized is...lets just go with singular...hem the sleeves or legs, or take in/let out the jacket

7. Musically inclined: Put their material to music

  • Encourage them to practice while you improve or perform a piece 

8. Artistic: Paint their picture
  • Use a favorite photo from classes and training and use your preferred media to bring the image to life  
9  Photography: Create a photo collage or slide show. 
  • Use motion capture style to make a short film, or create a photo-biography of their career to date 
10. Techy: Build a website or blog
  • Show the path of his or her training career to date, or share your own thoughts and reflections on how MA has influenced and positively impacted their lives

Any way you can invest your time and talents into growing along what is perhaps not necessarily a shared path, but certainly a parallel one, will give boat loads of affirmation.  Your child will see that their participation has value to you that at least matches that of the existing passion you pair it with.  Bringing these two elements together combines their effective influence in a dialectic fashion where the whole is far more than its respective parts.


Try to stay away from a one-and-done mentality with this type of encouragement.  How it grows and matures in your home will depend on you and your family, but continuing to show support and your own engagement as something aside from just the chauffeur to classes will only aid in your child's long term success in martial arts and, in turn, in life.

Monday, May 7, 2018

5 Hacks to Surviving a Knife Attack


5 Hacks To Survive A Knife Attack
    
    You’re walking home on an otherwise nice brisk evening with your family or loved one when, out of nowhere, you are surrounded by aggressive and intimidating people that want to harm you. They may just yell and/or push at first. They may grab you, or swing or threaten you with a gun or a knife. What would you do? Would you know what to do to protect yourself and your family? How would you feel? How would you react? 

    Any of these scenarios are scary at best and deadly at worst. Over 1500 people die from injuries involving knife attacks each year; 5 times as many as those killed by rifles. Statistics aside, the brutal reality is that knives are prevalent and dangerous, knife wounds are nasty and becoming a victim is totally preventable. It is wise to train to defend against threats and attacks with knives, and the best time to think about this is not when the attack is imminent and real. I highly recommend that every reader get some training. For the purposes of this article, I will address 5 hacks that could save your life in a knife attack scenario.

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 1.  Understand the Threat 

    Knives are a real threat! They are common, easy to carry and conceal, and can inflict severe wounds and damage, up to and including death. I really don’t think that most people understand how nasty slashes and stabs of the knife upon human flesh can be. This is a mistake. Awareness of the seriousness of the threat is an important step in preparing to deal with it. Awareness can also help you to pay attention, noticing who around is carrying a knife well before any threat exists. 

    On the other hand, it’s very important to know that it’s very possible to survive an attack if you know how to. In the best case, of course, you have trained in advance. The time to condition to react correctly is when the threat isn’t real; I often remind my students that, “it’s a good thing to get stabbed with a rubber knife all day long”. What can be a painful or deadly mistake in real life is, in training, only feedback. 

    With or without training, it is important to understand that fighting back aggressively will more likely improve your situation. We know from the defensive wounds of attack crime reports that the victim will not often be killed by the first, second or even first several attacks. Most attackers are not trained knife fighters, but rather an angry person attacking viciously with an overhand (ice-pick) stab, underhand upward vertical strike, stabbing or slashing, and probably repeatedly, but probably with more aggressiveness than accuracy. It is for this reason that actively defending is so important, and this leads us to knife hack number two.
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2. Aggressive Counterattack
    
    As I alluded to in number one, the victim that tries to defend without fighting back is the most likely to be killed by a knife attack. Of course, if the scum bag threatening you with a knife just wants your money, you should give him your money because, as I have also already suggested, a knife fight situation is not something that you really want to get into. The variables are many and the stakes are high; so, if he wants something that you can easily replace, the right play is to give it.

    My teacher once told me, though, that when you are dealing with a terrorist, you should consider yourself already dead, and that any move that you make to improve your situation improves your situation. While I am certainly not saying that every knife attacker is a terrorist, I am saying that not everyone with a knife will leave you alone just because you give them what they want. You will have to make the call of which one you are dealing with and act accordingly.

    This decision only applies to a knife threat, of course. Once the knife is in motion towards you, your decision time has been ended. This is the time when, as I say, you must deal aggressively with the problem. In my system, Hap Ki Do, we will use a block and a simultaneous counterattack. While the block will hopefully stop the first attack and, if not the first then the second; the aggressive counterattacks address the problem. The problem isn't the knife but rather is the attacker wielding the knife, and that problem must be dealt with aggressively.

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3. Control The Weapon

    As soon as we block and counterattack, we should also attempt to control the weapon. The exception to this rule would be wherein we counterattack strongly enough that we make enough distance to completely disengage and get away so quickly that we don't have to, which is even better. In close proximity to the attacker, however, by necessity or because we can’t move quickly enough, we must control the weapon hand as soon as possible, stopping its ability to continue cycling the attack. We need to control long enough and well enough to affect knife hack number four.

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4. Disengage or Neutralize

    As stated in number 3, making distance and getting away from the attacker and attack is the best case of all. The disengagement can happen directly after the initial defense and counterattack, if you made sufficient distance to escape and are fast enough to do so; or it could be after you entered and controlled the weapon, have already struck multiple times in the correct areas to slow down the attacker and then you disengage and exit the area while scanning for more attackers. Still other times, the situation may dictate that you can’t leave the scene; perhaps a small child or elderly parent keeps you from the ability to flee quickly. In this case, one must be able to neutralize the threat to ensure that he’ll be able to get his family home safely.


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5. Prepare Today

    At the risk of being redundant, the very best thing that you can do to survive a violent knife attack is to start preparing for that scenario today. Be aware, of your own abilities and limitations, and also of your surroundings, including where you are, with whom and who else is in the area. Practice doing this always. At first it will feel funny, or even awkward; but like all new skills, awareness will become natural when practiced over time. If you can, get some training from an experienced instructor trained in a reality based martial art including knife defense. If you already train, practice seriously. I believe every Hap Ki Do student should have their own training knife and training gun. The combination of proper instruction on how to best defend yourself, with significant repetition and practice under stress, is the very best way to prepare today to defend tomorrow.

    I hope that nobody reading this ever has to defend themselves against a knife attack. In the best case, should you decide to take my advice and get some training, all the preparation will be only insurance. In a great school, the training will come with some bonuses including fun, fitness, friends and family, as well as the confidence to walk in peace. I pray every day that none of my students ever has to use the self-defense that I teach them because, by definition, somethings gone really bad and someone’s going to get really hurt. The only thing worse than having to defend, though, would be to have to and not be prepared for it. This is why we pray for the best, but train for the worst today.

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Monday, April 30, 2018

When No One is Looking



It’s time for class.  Tom walks into the KMA gym and notices that Mary and Matt are already there. There are about six minutes before class starts.  Mary and Matt notice Tom come in and yell over to him, “Come on Tom, come get us”.  All three of them begin running around doing rolls, pretending to spar each other, or playing tag.  However there is one student standing calmly in the middle of the room.  He wears a focused look on this face while he analyzes his moves in the mirror.  Gracefully, he slides one foot in front of him, bending his knee as he lowers himself into a nice low forward stance.  He looks back and checks to make sure that his back leg is straight, while slightly bent and that his foot is angled 45 degrees.  Mary, Matt, and Tom continue to scurry around him, but he does not even pause to notice them.

“Hey, who’s that?” Mary asks as she and Matt stop to catch their breath.
“Oh, that’s Jason” says Tom as he falls to the ground, exhausted from chasing Mary and Matt around the gym.  “He was in the beginner’s class but he just got promoted to green belt a few weeks ago.  Master Circle gave him the student of the month award because he did his whole test without making one mistake.  He was really good and boy can he kick high”.
“Why don’t you ask him if he wants to play with us?” asked Matt as he wipes the sweat from his forehead.
Tom closed his eyes and shook his head.  “Nah, he won’t.  Jason is always practicing his form or his kicks or working on his stances.  He’s nice to talk to but when he starts working on something he doesn’t let anything distract him. Jason even won the focus contest during the warriors challenge a few months ago.  Even Master Circle couldn’t make him laugh or move or anything”.

Master Circle begins class and let’s everyone know that he will be pre-testing those that have met their attendance requirement.  The students work hard and at the end of class, Master Circle calls Tom and Mary up to receive their stripe for passing their pre-test.  Matt hangs his head and kicks the ground with the ball of his foot.  Master Circle told him that he needed to work on his form a little more.  After class, all of the students run to the dressing room to get on their clothes.  As Mary and Matt walk out, they noticed that Jason is still in the gym.  He is standing in front of the mirrors practicing the new part of his Pyang Sah-dan form that Master Circle just taught him. 

Matt sighs deeply, “Geez, Master Circle just taught Jason that part of the form and he already does it better than me”. 
“Well, maybe if you ask him he can help you too.  Jason helped me with my hand and foot basic last week.  He showed me a trick for how to remember the combination for number one and two.  Now I can remember it really well”, replied Mary as she walked with Matt towards the door.
Matt just closed his eyes and shrugged his shoulders. “Ah, that’s okay.  I’ll figure it out some other time.  Hey, guess what?  Tag…you’re it”.

The best and most respected people in the martial art world are the ones that practice excellence.  Some of us only practice when we are told to do it or when someone is watching us. The best students are the ones that are willing to train when there is no belt to test for or prize to win.  It is only through constant hard-work and focus that you can improve your skills and continue to advance.  The next time you are wondering which of your fellow students will do the best at their test, win the trophy at the tournament, or become the next master, just look around the room.  It will be the person that is standing off in the corner or in the room practicing their art, when no one is looking.



Author:  Semi-Master Chris Higdon, 2009

Tuesday, April 17, 2018

Are Your Kids Too Busy With Activities




Most people look at extracurricular activities in a good light, as they have the benefit of teaching children something new even once the school day is over. However, it is possible to overdo it on the after-school activities. If you’re wondering if your children are too busy because of their clubs and other activities, here’s what you should consider before you make any changes to their schedule.
The Many Benefits of Extracurricular Activities
There are clearly benefits for kids who join clubs, sports, and other activities outside of the school day. First, they can explore their interests, which will let them discover which activities they truly enjoy—and which ones they don’t like. All the while, they’re boosting their self-esteem as they discover where their talents lie.
Involvement in after-school activities can also teach kids responsibility and time management skills, since they have to juggle their activities and their homework during the school year. Plus, for older children, getting involved in activities can improve their chances of being accepted to college, especially when they excel at some of those activities. Finally, some studies show that extracurricular activities can improve a student’s grades and behavior at school. Knowing all this, it’s clear why so many parents prefer to keep their kids busy after school. But like anything, there may be some downsides to this decision.

The Problem With Being Too Involved
The concept of “too much of a good thing” applies to extracurricular activities because it turns out many kids these days are overscheduled. Some parents simply assume that if a couple of activities have been good for their kids, then even more will be better. While some kids do thrive on staying busy, not all can take the pressure that comes with having too many activities to do. Some might start exhibiting signs of anxiety, and some simply don’t get enough sleep because they’re too busy. And not enough sleep can lead to poor grades.
Many experts say children these days don’t have enough free time to play or just be a kid. Children shouldn’t have every minute of their day accounted for. They should have some time to relax, use their imagination, or just sleep in on a weekend morning. Otherwise, they could end up feeling overwhelmed by, and even resentful of, their outside activities.

Finding Balance
One rule of thumb to consider is that if you’re stressed from getting your kids to their extracurricular activities, your kids probably are too. Additionally, if it always seems like going to their practices, games, or rehearsals is a chore for them—and they rarely smile or laugh during these activities—then it’s time to reevaluate what they’re involved in.
Maybe it’s clear your children are stressed-out by their extracurricular activities, but they claim to love all of them and don’t want to give them up. That’s when you have to take control of the situation and let them know they need to make some decisions. This might mean limiting your kids to one or two activities at a time. And note that, according to one study, kids who had 20 hours or more per week of extracurricular activities started to have health problems such as stress and loss of sleep.
It’s up to you to decide how many activities your children can realistically handle. For some families, it’s one per child, and for others, it’s a few. But as you figure out how to balance it all, be sure to stay organized with a calendar that has everyone’s activities recorded. You might also find out if you can carpool with other families, which would at least cut down on your stress.
And remember to set aside time for your family to be together without any activities as well as time for your kids to just be kids!